Arranged Marriages/non Arranged Marriages

• Dear Dudes,
  
  i wanna discuss about these topics, i would like to point out that please refrain from saying which one is right and which one is wrong, we just wanna see on what both of these things really are
  
  Also if you would like state the adv/disadv points, we would like that

  22 May 2007, 06:40 Jon

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• no comment

  my best friend's relationship ended because the guy was unable to say no to an arranged marriage. no comment. everybody knows that there are lots of marriages like that and ppl who live in that kind of communites have very well structured answers to why they think its better. for a european with a free mind, this will never be understandable. how can smbody else decide for me who should i spend the rest of my life with? specially that these arranged marriages ARE for the rest of their lives. we had it too in europe for centuries and and i thank god we dont anymore, at least not that way, even if the price is that many ppl sign the paper without thinking it through.
  
  so this is your thread and your right to want or not want to talk about certain aspects, but since u brought it up, it might be a good idea to read some posts from ppl who are living in this kind of relationships. in case there are ppl like that here...

  Riddah 22 May 2007, 06:41 - Report

• what are you asking?

  are you asking our opinions w/o saying what is right and wrong?
  
  well i am a proponent of love...but there is nothing wrong with arranged. its all about compatibility in either case.
  
  when you are arranged you would hope the partner is compatible, or you can compromise and agree on the most important fundamentals of life in general.
  
  you dont have to agree every time, you can agree to disagree. however, a love marriage allows you to date and determine these aspects of the relationship before getting into a serious married relationship.

  sunil 19 Jan 2009, 01:44 - Report